These 15 attitude changes will make you more likable

These 15 attitude changes will make you mora likableThese 15 attitude changes will make you more likableNo man (or woman) is an island at work. The core truth is that our success depends on others. Whether we get promoted, get raises and succeed in general is often down to how easy we are to work with.A lot of ink has been spilled about good ways to relate to coworkers, but much of it tends to be complicated. Luckily, we chanced on some easy-to-digest action cards based on the upcoming book Get Better 15 Proven Practices to Build Effective Relationships at Work by Todd Davis, Chief People Officer at FranklinCovey. He gives detailed advice on 15 ways to keep a positive attitude and good relationships in the arbeitszimmer ahead of its release date. These are called Get Better Practices.So lets take a page out of the upcoming book- hitting stands on November 7- and explore ways to improve your connections with colleagues.Practice One Wear Glasses That WorkThis means to see people and c ircumstances clearly.Some of the advice includes writing down why a connection with someone or a circumstance isnt effective, figuring out which of those reasons are based on opinions or factual information, and more, eventually going against and modifying a minimum of one thing you believe.Practice Two Carry Your Own WeatherDont let others dictate how you feel.This card says to think of someone who triggers your reactivity and the next time they get to you, letting them know you need time to think before answering, or writing to them in an email that wont ever reach their inbox, then re-examining it after leaving it there for a night to gauge your emotions, among other things.Practice Three Behave Your Way to CredibilityThis should be applied if youve found yourself trying to talk your way out of an issue you got intobecause of your behavior, or in a circumstance when your integrity is doubted.This card recommends identifying someone whose trust you need, plektroning two to three t hings they value in someone and more, but ultimately working on the areas they like that you need to improve upon.Practice Four Play Your Roles WellThis should be applied if youre wearing too many hats, and onearea of your life has been lacking when youre doing well in another.Advice on this card includes plektruming out five to seven hats you wear (i.e., manager, parent, etc.), choosing one person you have an big impact on while in that space, and committing to doing one thing this week to begin seeing the change you want, among other advice.Practice Five See the Tree, elend Just the SeedlingThink of peoplespotential, and dont make quick assumptions about them.This card suggests picking out two to three people who give you trouble imagining their capabilities, reflecting on what you think of them and what they offer, things they are talented at, and to think of what youd be willing to think differently about them.It says to help them by hearing them out and cheering them on more, a mong other advice.Practice Six Avoid the Pinball SyndromePeople going through this cram so many pressing things into each day that they struggle to get done whats really important to them. This card suggests labeling everything you took part in last week into important or urgent groups, (or both), picking out two to three less urgent activities that you can put off or get rid of altogether and more.The end goal is to schedule time to prioritize crucial things in the coming week.Practice Seven Think We, Not MeThis card should be applied if youre jealous of those who are doing well (called the victor) or you act like the martyr, where people walk all over you.This application process on this card includes selecting two connections with people that you want to strengthen, figuring out if each one has an equal amount of courage and consideration, and taking specific steps to work on each area thats lacking.The goal is to display a lot of both in each relationship with people.Practice Ei ght Take Stock of Your Emotional Bank AccountsThis should be applied if youre coming up on empty.This card says to pick a significant connection with someone, choose three ways youve decreased their trust so you dont engage in them again by accident, and more. You ultimately want to tell them how you plan to earn back their trust and hear what they think.Practice Nine Examine Your Real MotivesMuch of the time, we may do things without thinking about them too closely, which means were not lining up our actions with our characters and sense of integrity. Figure out what really drives you, and if your motives match up with your values.This card says to think about how you want a high-stakes situation to play out, question yourself on why you want that a minimum of five times to figure out what your real motives are, ask a series of questions and figure out which motives match up most to your most strongly held values so you can act on them from that point on.Practice Ten Talk Less, Lis ten MoreHear people out instead of injecting yourself into the dialogue so often.This card recommends picking someone whod be better off if you lent them an ear, having a conversation with them with the goal of comprehending what they say (instead of responding), telling them what they said, and more.Practice Eleven Get Your Volume RightThis should be applied if something you pride yourself on backfires because you depend on it too much.This card says to pick your three best strengths, say how others perceive your actions while using it, and more, of each. Then get together with a someone who has witnessed these actions, and have them tell you what happened and the result.Then pick another, more appropriate strength that couldve worked better that time and/or identify how to lessen the impact of the first one going forward.PracticeTwelve Extend TrustThis one is pretty self-explanatory.The card suggests choosing a circumstance when you need to do so, then say what responsibility your e giving them, then detailing everything that could happen and the risk level and more.Practice Thirteen Make it Safe to Tell the TruthThis card confirms that psychological safety is important.It says to pick a role with significance in your life (work-related or not), then to choose someone you have an impact on while wearing that hat, then to ask them specific questions about how your relationship is working out, while writing down what they say without talking, and more.Practice Fourteen Align Inputs With OutputsThis should be applied if you dont often get what you strive for, or if you dont know where the source of your success comes from.It says to choose an outcome you want in a significant relationship (a result that isnt happening), then to say what the current nature of the connection is, to reflect on what youre putting into something by yourself or with a good friend, by asking specific questions, switching to better input, and more.Practice Fifteen Start With HumilityBe humble.This card says to pick a connection (work-related or not) that needs to be improved, then to list one issue youre facing in the relationship, then to select one of the 14 other Get Better Practices and say how youll put it into practice there, then to reflect on how it went in writing, then to pick another practice to implement once you master the previous one.These 15 attitude changes will make you more likableNo man (or woman) is an island at work. The core truth is that our success depends on others. Whether we get promoted, get raises and succeed in general is often down to how easy we are to work with.A lot of ink has been spilled about good ways to relate to coworkers, but much of it tends to be complicated. Luckily, we chanced on some easy-to-digest action cards based on the upcoming book Get Better 15 Proven Practices to Build Effective Relationships at Work by Todd Davis, Chief People Officer at FranklinCovey. He gives detailed advice on 15 ways to keep a positive at titude and good relationships in the amtsstube ahead of its release date. These are called Get Better Practices.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreSo lets take a page out of the upcoming book - hitting stands on November 7- and explore ways to improve your connections with colleagues.Practice One Wear Glasses That WorkThis means to see people and circumstances clearly.Some of the advice includes writing down why a connection with someone or a circumstance isnt effective, figuring out which of those reasons are based on opinions or factual information, and more, eventually going against and modifying a minimum of one thing you believe.Practice Two Carry Your Own WeatherDont let others dictate how you feel.This card says to think of someone who triggers your reactivity and the next time they get to you, letting them know you need time to think before answering, or writing to them in an email that wont ever reach their inbox, then re-examining it after leaving it there for a night to gauge your emotions, among other things.Practice Three Behave Your Way to CredibilityThis should be applied if youve found yourself trying to talk your way out of an issue you got intobecause of your behavior, or in a circumstance when your integrity is doubted.This card recommends identifying someone whose trust you need, picking two to three things they value in someone and more, but ultimately working on the areas they like that you need to improve upon.Practice Four Play Your Roles WellThis should be applied if youre wearing too many hats, and onearea of your life has been lacking when youre doing well in another.Advice on this card includes picking out five to seven hats you wear (i.e., manager, parent, etc.), choosing one person you have a big impact on while in that space, and committing to doing one thing this week to begin seeing the change you want, among other advice.P ractice Five See the Tree, Not Just the SeedlingThink of peoplespotential, and dont make quick assumptions about them.This card suggests picking out two to three people who give you trouble imagining their capabilities, reflecting on what you think of them and what they offer, things they are talented at, and to think of what youd be willing to think differently about them.It says to help them by hearing them out and cheering them on more, among other advice.Practice Six Avoid the Pinball SyndromePeople going through this cram so many pressing things into each day that they struggle to get done whats really important to them. This card suggests labeling everything you took part in last week into important or urgent groups, (or both), picking out two to three less urgent activities that you can put off or get rid of altogether and more.The end goal is to schedule time to prioritize crucial things in the coming week.Practice Seven Think We, Not MeThis card should be applied if youre j ealous of those who are doing well (called the victor) or you act like the martyr, where people walk all over you.This application process on this card includes selecting two connections with people that you want to strengthen, figuring out if each one has an equal amount of courage and consideration, and taking specific steps to work on each area thats lacking.The goal is to display a lot of both in each relationship with people.Practice Eight Take Stock of Your Emotional Bank AccountsThis should be applied if youre coming up on empty.This card says to pick a significant connection with someone, choose three ways youve decreased their trust so you dont engage in them again by accident, and more. You ultimately want to tell them how you plan to earn back their trust and hear what they think.Practice Nine Examine Your Real MotivesMuch of the time, we may do things without thinking about them too closely, which means were not lining up our actions with our characters and sense of inte grity. Figure out what really drives you, and if your motives match up with your values.This card says to think about how you want a high-stakes situation to play out, question yourself on why you want that a minimum of five times to figure out what your real motives are, ask a series of questions and figure out which motives match up most to your most strongly held values so you can act on them from that point on.Practice Ten Talk Less, Listen MoreHear people out instead of injecting yourself into the dialogue so often.This card recommends picking someone whod be better off if you lent them an ear, having a conversation with them with the goal of comprehending what they say (instead of responding), telling them what they said, and more.Practice Eleven Get Your Volume RightThis should be applied if something you pride yourself on backfires because you depend on it too much.This card says to pick your three best strengths, say how others perceive your actions while using it, and more , of each. Then get together with someone who has witnessed these actions, and have them tell you what happened and the result.Then pick another, more appropriate strength that couldve worked better that time and/or identify how to lessen the impact of the first one going forward.PracticeTwelve Extend TrustThis one is pretty self-explanatory.The card suggests choosing a circumstance when you need to do so, then say what responsibility youre giving them, then detailing everything that could happen and the risk level and more.Practice Thirteen Make it Safe to Tell the TruthThis card confirms that psychological safety is important.It says to pick a role with significance in your life (work-related or not), then to choose someone you have an impact on while wearing that hat, then to ask them specific questions about how your relationship is working out while writing down what they say without talking, and more.Practice Fourteen Align Inputs With OutputsThis should be applied if you dont often get what you strive for, or if you dont know where the source of your success comes from.It says to choose an outcome you want in a significant relationship (a result that isnt happening), then to say what the current nature of the connection is, to reflect on what youre putting into something by yourself or with a good friend, by asking specific questions, switching to better input, and more.Practice Fifteen Start With HumilityBe humble.This card says to pick a connection (work-related or not) that needs to be improved, then to list one issue youre facing in the relationship, then to select one of the 14 other Get Better Practices and say how youll put it into practice there, then to reflect on how it went in writing, then to pick another practice to implement once you master the previous one.This article was first published on August 31, 2017.